In the interest of full disclosure, and this is slightly embarrassing to admit, I punched my ex-husband shortly after we separated. The details aren’t important and basically it happened like it usually does: I got mad and sad and frustrated and felt like I didn’t have any control over my life. I tried to stuff these feelings down and act like I was doing alright.
One day, I went looking for trouble in the form of yelling at my ex, knowing full-well he was with his new girlfriend. One thing led to another, which led to even more frustration and anger, and without thinking I punched my ex in the face.
I am not proud of what I did and I do not condone violence of any kind (unless you are protecting yourself). But I would like to use my horrible behavior to encourage you to not bottle up your feelings during your divorce to the point that you explode and haul off and punch your ex or do so...
I was recently asked to write a thank you letter to my ex as a part of The HuffPost's series, An Open Letter To My Ex. I didn't think I was ready to feel gratitude toward my ex but while writing this letter I started to feel peace toward him.
You might not be ready to feel gratitude toward your ex but I highly recommend writing a thank you letter when you are ready. Here is my thank you letter:
I used to refer to you as “The Sub-Human”. The pain I felt after I found out you were cheating on me was like no other emotional pain I had experienced before. Your betrayal ruined not only our marriage but my self-confidence, my hopes and dreams, and my trust in others.
And yet, over the past 2 years this pain has slowly receded. Surprisingly, it has been replaced with gratitude. Only in the...