The Beatles were definitely right when they said, “To everything there is a season.” They were some smart, if not weird, men. They knew that nothing lasts forever, even though it might feel that way while you’re going through it. And nothing makes us more aware of the seasons of life than going through a huge change like divorce.
I recently decided to get a full-time job to help pay the bills while I work toward my dream of blogging full-time. And let me tell you what: while I’m writing this I’ve only been at this job 3 days and I’m already going out of my mind.
I am not employee material. I do better when I’m busy and don’t have time to think but I just don’t belong in a 9 to 5 job. This job has me sitting most of the day at a desk and it’s very slow here. So, I’m silently freaking out and simultaneously feeling like a failure because I wasn’t making enough money anymore being self-employed. It’s been my dream for as long as I can remember to own and manage my own business. I’ve taken many turns over the years but the basic idea of being my own boss has always been there.
So, for me, making the decision to get a full-time job in order to pay the bills has been a big one. And it’s gotten me thinking a lot about the seasons of life. And how I hope this season of my life doesn’t last too long. And it reminded me of the season of my life right after I left my ex-husband. Everything was so out of whack. Nothing felt right. And many times it felt like I was walking around in someone else’s life. A quiet voice in my head would whisper, “How did I get here?” many times a day.
And then there was another season right after that when I felt somewhat adjusted to my new life. And I was becoming comfortable in my room at my parent’s house. It felt like when I was younger and still in school with homework and eating dinner together. And there was another season after that. And another after that. Since then, I’ve been through something like 10 seasons.
Each season has had a theme. Some themes have felt bad. Some have felt peaceful. Each one has taught me something. I learned that I can, in fact, do my own taxes. I learned that watching my ex’s girlfriend spend time with my daughter felt like my heart was being cut to shreds. I learned that I can love and be loved again.
And now I’m entering into another season. This season isn’t as flashy or exciting or dramatic (thankfully) but it is peaceful. As Abraham Hicks says, I’m “getting ready to be ready”.
And that’s what I want to pass on to you today. In each season of your life you will plant seeds and learn things and possibly harvest what you planted in the last season. You are always in a state of "getting ready to be ready". And as long as you keep planting and growing and harvesting you will be alright.
Enjoying what you’ve harvested is as equally important as doing the work of planting and cultivating. Joyful celebration is as important as getting shit done. Focusing on the joy helps bring you more joy. And you know what? You just simply owe it to yourself to celebrate any win, big or small.
Sometimes it’s hard to transition into a new phase of life. You get used to where you are and what you’re doing and then suddenly everything changes. It’s easy to get swept up in resentment and reject the change. I remember saying many times, “This is not how things are supposed to be.” All those jumbled up, crappy feeling are understandable. But please, try to find joy and peace during the transitions.
Whatever season you are in I hope that you are able to take time to enjoy what you’ve harvested from your last season. Each season of life teaches us something. And each season plants something new that we bring with us to the next season and throughout the rest of our life.
What did you plant that is ready to harvest?